[quote="Lutheranteach, post:10, topic:200537"]
I had this conversation with my wife's uncle, who was a priest for 20-plus years who left the priesthood to get married. He says there is no good answer to that question as he saw couples who did everything right, devout Catholic who went through pre cana, pre marriage encounters, etc. who looked to be perfect couples who were miserable and divorced within a year. And he'd seen couples who'd rarely set foot in a church who were madly in love with one another and had wonderful marriages for 30 or 40 years til death did they part.
1) What marriage is valid, blessed, etc. in God's eyes is a mystery in many ways
2) Anyone who thinks their marriage will work out based solely because it was performed "in the church" is fooling themselves.
3) Anyone who thinks a marriage that takes place outside the church, isn't valid in God's eyes, or has a lesser chance of working out is also fooling themselves.
If one feels a need to have the church recognize their marriage, by all means. get married in the church. IF not, then don't but be aware of whatever possible consequences may be around the corner. (Although I've never seen those consequences carried out)
@LT- I just have to ask after reading post after post of yours - you don't seem to be Catholic or believe, you seem only to be here to undermine believers and disrespect them, and you seem very angry and hateful towards the Church- why are you here on a Catholic Forum?