I was appalled when I joined the preparation team to find that there was no mention whatsoever of the effects of Baptism. No mention of original sin, no mention of what Baptism accomplishes. I made sure to start bringing it up, much to the surprise of the rest of the team.
Then I noticed that families were being told that attending Mass on Sunday was optional,that sometimes we have to make compromises and God understands! It occurred to me that one team member was never at Mass during minor hockey season. During one session, after telling the parents that there was nothing wrong with missing Mass she looked at me and said, “You’re married to a non-Catholic, I’m sure you’ve had to miss Mass because your husband had other plans.” I truthfully answered “I’ve been married for over 30 years and Mass has never been negotiable, neither for me, nor for the kids when they were young.”
I then went to Father and asked what he told the parents when he first met with them. His answer was what you’d expect: he told them that by having their children baptized they were committing to raising them as Catholics, attending Mass, teaching them the Faith, etc. I told them what parents were then being told in the prep sessions but he didn’t bother to do anything about it. The hockey mom has since left the team.