With appreciation for this forum, I want to ask a question to which, to date, I have not found an answer.
I was raised Catholic. Shortly after my confirmation, I made the decision to leave the Church. One of my key reasons is the hypocrisy I saw on a daily basis from so-called fellow Catholics. Several girls I knew attended CYM summer camps only to return pregnant and still singin’ loud and proud in the folk choir come fall, pregnant to the nines. I was confused and pretty disgusted.
As an adult, I encounter women and men all the time who profess their strong Catholic faith, yet are having sex with their boyfriends/girlfriends a few hours after Mass and a nice Sunday brunch. One of my colleagues waited for her husband to go through the prolonged process of an annulment so they could be married in the Church, because their “Catholic faith was strong” yet they were cohabitating (and worried about being pregnant before their vows) throughout that whole process.
I am tired of hearing people talk about how important Catholicism is to them, yet they violate the basic tenets of the faith all the time. I understand forgiveness, but I don’t understand why people want to claim to be something that is counter to the way they live. I often want to ask people, “So, why be Catholic if don’t want to live as a Catholic?” but I stop short of actually doing it.
So, as someone struggling to find her right place within Christianity, but unwilling to re-enter a community with so much daily hypocrisy, what do you advise? And what do you think about folks who claim to be SO Catholic yet throw their lack of Catholic morals in folks’ faces? Shouldn’t they just move to a Protestant faith in which their behavior is tolerated?
Just sign me, more Catholic than most Catholics I know…