I agree with EasterJoy that your first priority at this time is helping your wife get well. It sounds like you and your wife are doing just that.
As for your question–big deal what other people think! There is bias in our current society against lots of things. As long as we are confident that we are obeying God, we just have to let the criticisms roll off our backs.
E.g., bias against families who watch television. (Ignoring their children, allowing the TV to be a babysitter, allowing their children’s morals to be formed by Hollywood, etc.)
E.g., bias against families who live in trailer homes. (Poor trash.)
E.g., bias against families who live in a big new home and make a huge carbon footprint (destroying the earth, selfish rich fat cats).
E.g., bias against families who use disposable water bottles instead of buying Brita filters and drinking out of re-usable glasses (destroying the earth, thoughtless).
E.g., bias against families who go to church (indoctrinating their children, not allowing their children intellectual freedom).
E.g., bias against families who go to certain churches (heretics, fanatics, cultists).
E.g., bias against families who home school (isolating their children)
E.g., bias against families who don’t home school (allowing their children to be raised by others with wrong value systems)
E.g., bias against families who are in debt instead of debt free (shiftless, selfish, undisciplined, unChristian, foolish, ignorant, etc.–you can tell that my husband and I are in debt!)
E.g., bias against families who spend a lot of money on figure skating, or any sport, or music lessons, or any recreational activity, or almost anything (foolish, thoughtless, silly, living vicariously through children, etc.–yes, our family figure skates!)
E.g., bias against families who are couch potatoes, or fat, or kind of fat, or who eat at fast food places instead of cooking at home, or who buy food from a grocery store instead of growing their own food in their own garden (lazy fat slobs, etc.)
etc. etc. etc.
My point is–people are ready to criticize and backbite and be prejudiced against almost ANYTHING that a family does. I’ve seen the above examples over and over again, and although some of them seem kind of trivial, it hurts when someone is outwardly critical of a choice that your family has made.
Just ignore your critics. But do continue to take care of your wife. The best thing a husband and wife can do for their children is love each other, and love is an action word.