My wife has been having an affair off and on for over a year now. Most recently I overheard a conversation she had with him where she accidentally “butt dialed” me where she repeatedly expressed her love for him. She appears to have no remorse, nor any intention of terminating the relationship. I gave her an ultimatum at one point recently that if there was any contact I would pursue a divorce. Of course I caught them together shortly thereafter.
Here is the kicker. She is very devout in her faith. To all appearance we are the model Catholic family. We are in kind of the “inner circle” of people in our parish who are seen as very devout. We both teach religious education classes in our parish. She is active in volunteering at the Catholic school our children attend. She is on the Respect Life Team, regularly goes to adoration, etc. No one at our church knows about the affair. If they did it would be scandalous.
We have 5 children from 13 down to 6. She wants to “stay married for the children” whatever that means. What to do???