I created a new account here to ask for Catholic advice anonymously. Basically my wife has put on a lot of weight and it is affecting our marriage very negatively. She now weighs a considerable amount more than I do and has shown zero interest in changing her diet or in exercising. The extra weight is repulsive and I am finding it difficult to be attracted to her physically. Worst of all she is starting to look like her mother more and more every day, and to put it very gently, her mother is not a beautiful woman. :crying: Even though I do my best to hide my feelings it has manifested itself in that I am unable to finish the “marital embrace”. She is hurt and upset even though I feel she is being unfair – I can’t help that I find the weight unattractive. She says that she would be more inclined to lose the weight if I found her attractive in spite of the weight. But I really don’t know how to just reprogram my mind to find it attractive.
I am a man and I have been around these forums before so before anyone asks: I don’t watch porn, look at dirty pictures, masturbate, drink, or do drugs. I know it might be difficult to believe for many but just go with it. Fire away. I can take it. How do I help her?