For several months I’ve been trying to tell my wife that she needs to cover her hair at Mass. She asked me why. I said because her hair can be a turn-on to other men, a distraction, and can also cause her to be prideful about her appearance. She said she wasn’t prideful, didn’t care if other men were turned on by her hairdo, and that she has a common hairstyle and it should not be a distraction. I said that St. Paul told women to cover their bare heads. She said she didn’t care what St. Paul said.
I finally told her that I would not sit with her at Mass if she did not cover her hair and she told me that was fine, but that our boys would still sit with her. I told her they would sit with me except the baby.
I am having a really hard time with her flagrant immodesty, and her refusal to submit to my authority as the spiritual head of our home. It’s not like I’m asking her to go to Mass in a burqa! I’m just asking her to show some reverence for our Lord by covering her head at the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass. Am I unreasonable?
I will admit we’ve had our problems lately. I don’t want to be a beast, but I think it’s important and I also think it’s important for her to obey me in spiritual ways.