My name is Chad. I am 23 years old, married and my parents just recently got divorced. I have 2 young siblings who are not even in High School yet. The biggest problem is that there is property involved in the divorce. My dad has a home to live in, and my mom is living in a trailor on this land, where she wants to build a house. My Grandfather(dad's dad) wants to take the property because the two of them owe him money for helping them pay it off. I want to help my mom keep the property, and I can by cosigning on a construction loan that will pay grandpa off and build the house. The loan is considerable and I could not pay for it. My mother has the financial means to pay it, she just doesn't have the credit score to get the loan, my dad had tax problems and it messed her credit up.
My wife does not want me to help my mom, because she is afraid that we may get the short end of the stick. But this land is very important to my mother, and is also my siblings and mine inheritance. My mother has always helped me when I needed her, and I feel it is a moral obligation on my part to help her. But if I do my wife won't be happy, to say the least.
Do I abandon my mother when she needs me, or keep my wife happy. I really don't understand, because if it were her mom, I would still do this for her as well. Thank you for reading my problems.