[quote="SerraSemper, post:15, topic:308166"]
Good questions. The answer is it depends.
For the consecration to a life of virginity, one needs not only to be a physical virgin (one who hasn't had voluntary intercourse) but also a good reputation and not have a sin against virginity public (like intercourse would be since it is not just her secret but that of the man or woman partner). So, theoretically, a technical virgin (maybe she didn't go all the way so to speak) might receive the consecration but not necssarily receive the rewards due to virginity in heaven because true virginity is just that. No willed action against chastity in the flesh. So if that french kiss or other actions happened with full consent, even if she didn't go "all the way", with the arousal actions willingly engaged in, she has forfeited the crown of virginity even if she is technically a virgin. So even if on technical grounds she could receive the consecration, she would not receive the crown of virginity in heaven. Again, this has a lot to do with full consent, etc.
For other actions like innocent kissing, flirting, etc. before consecration, yeah, there wouldn't be a problem.
You're making some pretty bold statements. Do you have any theological references backing it up?
I ask because I am currently discerning this vocation, thus doing a lot of research on it. On Catholic Encyclopedia it has this to say about virginity and the rewards in Heaven for virgins.
Virginity is irreparably lost by sexual pleasure, voluntarily and completely experienced. "I tell you without hesitation", writes St. Jerome in his twenty-second Epistle to St. Eustochium, n. 5 (P.L., XXII, 397) "that though God is almighty, He cannot restore a virginity that has been lost." ** A failure in the resolution, or even incomplete faults, leave room for efficacious repentance, which restores virtue and the right to the aureola.** Formerly virginity was required as a condition for entrance into some monasteries; at the present day, in most congregations, a pontifical dispensation is necessary for the reception of persons who have been married (the Order of the Visitation however is formally open to widows); but bodily integrity is no longer required. If the candidate's reputation is intact, the doors of monasteries are open to a generous repentance as to a generous innocence. (See NUNS; RELIGIOUS LIFE; VOWS; RELIGIOUS VEIL.)
From what I can interpret, those who haven't actually had sexual intercourse, and are repentant, they can be restored to the virtue of virginity and the right to the aureola (which is the rewards in Heaven for virgins).