I raised my son Catholic but he has left the Church and joined an Episcopal Church because he is gay and his Episcopal Church teaches that his lifestyle is OK. He feels very welcome there and believes he has a close relationship with God.
My Catholic friend told me that a gay lifestyle is not sinful for my son and he will go to heaven because he truly seeks God in his life and he is following his conscience which tells him that living his gay lifestyle is alright. His pastor and his Church confirm this for him. But I think, rather than seeking truth, my son has simply found a way to justify his behavior.
I know that he can’t help his homosexuality but I also know that living a gay lifestyle is wrong. I believe he is called to chastity as the catechism says. I pray for him often.
My question is this – since living a gay lifestyle is grave behavior, but my son thinks it is OK, if he dies unrepentant can he go to heaven? And if your answer is yes, then where does God draw the line? What if my son had been a rapist and believed that lifestyle to be OK? Or a pedophile? Or a serial killer? I could go on and on! And my son could probably find Churches out there supporting every one of these behaviors. Isn’t this moral relativism?