I got married 5 yrs ago by the JOP. I was born and raised cathlic, fell away, got married to a non practicing lutheran and now would like to re-join the catholic church by having our marriage convalidated. In the past my husband has dealt with porn and masturbation, this was a problem that I shared with my mom as it was becoming an issue within our marriage. 3-6 mths ago I had contemplated leaving my husband over this and a couple other issues. Six months ago he stopped viewing porn all together. We had been on marriage counseling during that time which really helped us see some of the problems we were having. We had an ectopic pregnancy about 2-3 mths ago and the loss has made us see how much better we are together than apart.
My Dh and I just got back from our priest and were discussing starting the process of convalidation. I called my mom for some info and told her....instead of being excited, she merely brings up the past issues of porn and thinks that this is something I should bring up with the priest. She thinks that because this was a problem over six months ago that I should talk about this yet again. Is this really necessary? We are not convalidating to try to make our marriage better or to "fix" anything. I want to be able to participate fully within my faith and cannot do that as our marriage is. My husband wants to do it so that I can participate fully. My family did not attend my first marriage, now I cannot even get them excited about celebrating a true marrriage. I am wrong?