In a nutshell, H left me and our 3 children last March…found out he is living with another woman. I do not let him in the house to visit the kids, he picks them up from the driveway. He calls the kids several times a day and comes over every other night. I have cut off all communication with him since Dec 26th…too painful to see and speak to him. I do not believe in divorce, and he has never brought it up (not sure why he hasn’t?)…I believe he is in the grips of a rabid midlife crisis (turned 40 last May) as well as being an alcoholic…he has checked out of life…when he left he informed me that he could no longer handle the pressures of a wife, children, bills etc…the woman he lives with is an asthmatic, chain smoking bartender who lives in a trailer and drinks as well.
Some people I know tell me to go on with my life, that my H is a lost cause and cannot be saved. I disagree. While I go on with my life, I still have hope that he will see the terrible way his life is going, and as his wife, I would like to be there when and if he does come back to us. Will I wait forever, sadly, no…but with the guidance of my priest, as well as many hours of praying, I cannot let go just yet…but…some people tell me I am a fool.
Do any of you wise people have any insight into my situation?