[quote="StJudePray4Me, post:1, topic:208058"]
Here is a situation:
A Catholic married couple have 3 children. The wife wants another child. The husband does not. He feels they can not afford another, and that he & his wife are not emotionally capable of nurturing another child.
The wife decides to withhold sex completely until he changes his mind. She claims that she is just being a good Catholic by refusing to have sex with her husband, who wants to use protection. He says she is NOT being a good Catholic wife, due to her withholding the marital embrace. He says he is willing to be the one to take precautions, so it is not her sin. He knows her real motive -- to strong-arm him into another baby. He knows because she has told this to some other people, who then told him.
I think the wife is wrong here, even though I know the husband wants to sin by using ABC. I think he has a good reason to not want another child, as this whole situation seems to prove that their marriage is in peril, and it would be bad to add another child into the equation. Others disagree with me. What say you?
No spouse has any "marital rights" to contracepted sex. And... a spouse* does* have "marital rights" to uncontracepted sex.
A loving spouse would not try to "strong-arm" the other. I'm not saying that the wife is handling this in the best way she can, but the husband is also trying to "strong-arm" her to get his way.
He may have a good reason for wanting to avoid more children, but that decision is not his alone to make-and he's going about avoiding children in a way that is directly against the Church teachings and his wife's wishes. Quite frankly, her husband saying that she's "not being a good Catholic wife" for refusing to participate in contracepted sex is an awful thing for him to say. Contraceptive sex--and perhaps especially contracepted sex against one's will--is NOT the real marital embrace. He has no right to do that to his wife. :(
If he really wants to avoid more children, then his wife has offered him a 100% effective means of avoiding more children. If he wants something else, then he needs to talk to his wife about Church approved methods of birth regulation, like NFP and/or the possibility of being open to more children at some point in the future.