I put a similar thread on the Singles group forum and I'm going to be either very gutsy or very stupid and throw this out to the general forum.
Having grown up very sheltered and just in general having little dating experience - and wanting to stay chaste in a mostly unchaste culture, I need some "insider scoop." Here's the problem:
In a public venue (not a bar, because I don't go to bars - just a store, the library, places like that), I honestly don't know sometimes if a guy is making conversation or trying to hit on me. I mean, unless he says something really out-there like he has a hot tub at his place. :rolleyes:
It's not that I don't know the blatant, crime-prevention type red flags to watch out for, and I think I could detect a stalker or other truly dangerous person. But I'm pretty sure that I miss some of the more subtle indicators of those who take pick-ups and one-night stands for granted. Or even sex-by-the-third-date mentality. That sort of thing - which I learned of only through watching sitcoms and movies :ouch:.
Or - and this is the most frustrating scenario of all - I pick up on things that raise questions in my mind, but don't know what to make of them.
Hoping to hear from women and men on this one - and hoping we can keep the discussion clean and respectful. I mean, if you dated a jerk or are a "recovering jerk," like I said I'd like to know what the secrets are. But hopefully not too graphically.
My high-school Spanish teacher taught us the cuss words in Spanish so that if we went on the trip to Mexico we wouldn't inadvertently get ourselves in trouble. Or sometimes there are shows on TV where they interview former criminals as part of crime safety information. That's the kind of thing I'm aiming at. We Catholic ladies need to be "wise as serpents but gentle as doves." If you can help - Thanks!