I think that most/many women have such a poor understanding of men that they chase them away from the Church through their interactions on boards like this and in real life.
Here are my thoughts on what women may be doing wrong.
Not understanding the emotional needs and instinctual motivations of men. Thinking that they are merely women with extra muscle mass and should therefore have a similar way of thinking and similar motivations.
Belittling the needs and desires of men as inferior to those of women. One example is sex vs emotional intimacy. Inappropriate emotional intimacy has led to as many extra-marital affairs as sexy and flirtatious behavior has and yet the need/desire for sex is consistently considered a sign of immaturity while emotional intimacy is considered more mature and valid of a need.
Denying them authority. If God has designed men to lead then leading is how they reach their full potential for holiness. However, leading requires opportunity and this is where many women fall short in helping men fulfill their responsibility. Allowing oneself to be led even though one considers themselves capable of leading is laudable act of self-denial.
"Should-ing" and shaming. Men and women are prone to different vices. For example- Gossiping is sometimes considered a sin women are more prone to, since women are often more talkative. Many women treat the vices typical of women as being less sinful or harmful than the vices attributed to men. Many women act as though they are more victimized by a mans insensitivity than a man is victimized by shaming.
Traditional Catholic parishes have more male participants than typical N.O. parishes. It seems as though Vatican II changes had the unintended consequence of chasing men out of the Church. Perhaps some of the distinctions such as women veiling in Church had a beneficial psychological impact?
Some women like to deny their impact by saying that a "real man" wouldn't be bothered by their doing x. y. z. negative behaviors. Imagine if that situation were reversed and a man said to a woman that if she were a "real woman" she wouldn't be offended by being called "fat". Most of her women friends would rally around her with pitch forks (as well they should).
Women tend to forget that mans competitive urge puts him at a disadvantage when it comes to accepting Church Authority. Women are evolved to be cooperative- it is how we have nurtured and sheltered our children since the stone age. Religion is very natural to women (assuming she hasn't had many feminist influences). Man has evolved to protect and compete, so they have been required to be cynical and suspicious of a person or institution that try's to limit their freedom. This is good in the world, though a disadvantage Spiritually. Many women consider this quality in men to be a sign of innate inferiority.
There are several instances in the Bible where women are cautioned to carefully guard their tongues. St Paul tells women to keep quiet in Church...Could this be because of some of the reasons listed above?
Entitlement: I have heard many Priests complain that they are constantly being nagged and criticized by women in the church and if their desires are not pandered to they will often spread vicious gossip. I.E. demanding that the Priest institute a strict dress code or demanding that they chastise another parishioner, as though Priests should double as magic genies. Given that Priesthood has become an increasingly thankless profession the shortage of Priests makes sense.
Should we consider whether there is anything women can do to help our brothers in Christ become better men and better Christians?