Does anyone have an explanations for this website saying how early counsils actually had or wanted women as deacons?womenpriests.org/traditio/deac_cls.htm
There is no evidence of deaconesses before the early 4th century. Even then, it is clear that their office was never considered an exercise of the Sacrament of Orders. Deaconesses assisted at the baptism of women and they performed other charitable functions; in many ways, they were a forerunner to the modern nun.
But they were not female deacons.
At least this is the consensus of the vast majority of Ctaholic theologians, and this seems to square with the historical documentation. A previous thread addressed this question. You may find it useful.