THE The Holy Quran AND WOMEN:
“And among God’s signs is this: He created for you mates from amongst yourselves (males as mates for females and vice versa) that you might find tranquillity and peace in them. And he has put love and kindness among you. Herein surely are signs for those who reflect (The Holy Quran 30:21).”
Surprisingly egalitarian in its approach, the The Holy Quran doesn’t agree with men being owners of women like the Bible, neither does it agree with women being created for or from men like the Bible nor does it say that women cannot teach or have authority over men. The The Holy Quran also dispels the common myth among religions in general that, a woman is evil by nature and has been created to deceive mankind. The purpose, says that The Holy Quran,
of mates is that tranquillity and peace emerges through the natural instinct of love and kindness among mates.
People who analyze the The Holy Quran however sometimes feel different about many of its verses which to them suggest that the The Holy Quran is in some way putting down women. These verses are a handful and given the nature of this chapter we can go in depth with them.
The verse in the The Holy Quran that causes trouble to most liberals and is misused by evangelical Christians is: “Men are the protectors (Qawamoon) of women, because God has given preference to some over others. and because men spend of their property on women. So good women are obedient, guarding even unnoticed that what Allah (God) has
asked them to guard. As for those from whom you fear rebellion in this (i.e guarding their chastity in your absence), i) talk to them, ii)leave them alone in their beds, iii)beat them. If they then obey you, look not for any way against them…(The Holy Quran 4:34).”
The verse in question is quite clear if we don’t jump to hasty conclusions. Men have been given the duty to protect and support women. God has given preference to one gender over another in certain duties. Men have been given preference in being the providers of women and women are given preference in caring for a child. Even if divorce
separates a man from his wife, he has to seek her help in caring for the child or another female if the mother agrees (The Holy Quran 2:233). Men are told to spend of their property on women and not ask the woman for anything even if she happens to be rich.
Now to the controversial part. The verse asks women to guard even when unnoticed, that
which God has asked them to guard. If we have read the The Holy Quran carefully, we wont have trouble in determining that God specifically asks women and men to “guard” their chastity (The Holy Quran 24:30-31). To the women who cheat on their husbands, the The Holy Quran gives a three step, braking mechanism to hasty divorce or worse still capital punishment for adultery.
Step one, the husband should talk to the wife and try to resolve it. Usually, given human emotions step one would normally be shouting and cursing and maybe even hitting. Around one to two million women in the U.S are severally battered each year. One to two thousand of them die. Rather unfortunate and avoidable if a braking mechanism
exists for people exercising their emotions. Contrary to this, the The Holy Quran suggests that talk
be the first option.
Step 2, the The Holy Quran recommends that marital relations be temporarily stopped between the couple, if cheating persists even after a talk. This would give the woman further opportunity to consider if she’d rather separate from the man and provide for herself after divorce or if she’d rather stay in the current marriage.
Step 3, the The Holy Quran says beat them to stop it. If the woman doesn’t want to end the current marriage and also doesn’t want to put an end to her cheating episodes, the The Holy Quran suggests that the husband beat her, for her own benefit. This is very liberal. The woman on her own would be under financial hardship and so she wants to use the current marriage relationship. However she also doesn’t want to quit cheating on her husband. People, men or women normally aren’t so liberal so as to keep the marriage and accept that the other party remain cheating. Something has to be done to make the relationship compatible, after
both talking and temporarily halting marital relationship hasn’t worked. However, in all sincerity, I can state confidently that step 3 will never arrive since both the man and the woman are free to end the relationship during the course of step 1 and step 2.
The The Holy Quran by making beating step 3 is actually controlling human emotions of hitting, which usually come before talking and reasoning. It makes it virtually impossible that a man going through 1 and 2 will resort to 3 also and not break the marriage before.
The The Holy Quran is concerned to the utmost about women’s rights. Human society has usually
not given equal opportunity to women, even today in the west. The The Holy Quran wants to protect women in a harsh society and at the same time change men’s “control-oriented” minds to one that is more reasonable. The method the The Holy Quran uses is more result oriented than dogmatic, where both parties are dealt with equitably and with justice.
This attitude of the The Holy Quran to protect women in an economically harsh environment is seen in many places throughout the book. For example, men married to women who then become guilty of lesbianism or bi-sexuality are told not to throw the women out of their homes but to keep them there till some way is found (The Holy Quran 24:3).