I honestly think that how the community receives communion should maybe be at the bottom of your list, in your discernment.
You are making a commitment for life, not dissimilar to a marriage. You will never find a mate, or community, that meets 100% of your requirements.
I’ve been hanging around Benedictines (men) for the last 10 years. It happens to be a monastery with a very beautiful liturgy in Gregorian chant, and it is very orthodox (as “traditionalist” as we can get around here without breaking away from Rome).
They have turned away candidates who placed too high an emphasis on the aesthetic aspects (i.e. the liturgy, traditionalism), even though they sorely could use more vocations. I’m just saying this to avoid future heartbreak. You really have to embrace the values of the order or congregation you are hoping to join. For Benedictines it is seeking God through a life of contemplation and the Work of God (Divine Office), and labour.
Part of that also includes accepting the shortcomings of your community and its members. You may for instance, be sitting next to someone in the refectory for 60 years who slurps her soup loudly, and you may find that far more irritating than how communion is received.
We will be judged, in the end, not on how we received communion but on how we embraced Christian charity.