Hi to all,
I found myself really angry tonight, which is not too common but maybe this is the upshot of a lot of things.
We generally get a visit from my husband's parents yearly. Previously they have both come for a month or so; perhaps five weeks. This time, my father in law could not make it, so the plan was for my mother in law to come for two weeks.
She booked her own tickets. They are for a three-week visit, plus a few days on top. Perhaps that wouldn't be such a big deal in every case, but there are a few factors here: she does not speak English, and my Spanish is limited. She does not drive. Our house is not accessible anywhere on foot. My husband habitually works late hours.
The only thing alleviating the situation is that she would have her own bath and a small kitchen. Still, she has nobody to talk to and nothing to do for most of the days. She is not a reader or much of an introvert like me.
This is stressful! :mad: The in-laws' visit has been difficult for me in the past, but I fear this will be worse. I was given no choice in the matter; it is treated as settled before I get input. I had been planning on taking her out daily with one of my kids (we have four, with one on the way), but for three weeks it will be exhausting at a time when I am starting to get extra tired from the pregnancy.
There have been boundary issues between my mom-in law and myself in the past, so I really don't want to test our mutual limits with a long one-on-one visit. Not to mention the stress the kids can bring in the mix. They are sweet, but very active and prone to messiness and quarrels. Being six months along in pregnancy, I don't want to have to intervene between them and my [bored and stressed] mother-in-law on a regular basis. I think this whole idea is unwise.
How would others see it? I'm feeling that my interests are being violated and ignored, and nobody stands to benefit.
Thanks in advance for any opinions or input.