[quote="sharmin, post:19, topic:245668"]
If that's the case, I would say you should honestly just deal with it...grin and bear it so to speak. It sounds like you wouldn't be happy with a 3 week visit no matter when the timing may be and that's not really fair to her either. This is her son....she probably has to pay for a plane ride, go through a lot of hassel to get there, and 2 weeks probably doesn't seem worth it to her. I can't say I blame her.
I also feel your pain. I really do. But I think her needs trump yours at this time, based on the info you have given (you don't have to clean after her, you are physically well enough to have her over, etc.). She won't be around forever and your husband and his mother will never get this time back.
Sounds like most inlaws! LOL
I think I would rethink causing all this turmoil, and putting your husband through this with the family he doesn't see very often, for the sake of only 7 extra days. But, just my opinion of course. You need to pray about it and listen carefully to what God tells you. He'll have better answers than we will. God Bless!
Hi Sharmin and Petitfleur,
This is for both of you, as well as for other posters who are of the "go ahead and accept three weeks" school, so I avoid over-posting and over-quoting. I will clarify that my MIL visits for a full month each year. It is not an issue with me refusing longer visits from my MIL across the board or disrespecting her legitimate need to see her son and grandchildren. I will also clarify that we had planned for her to come again this Christmas for another two weeks (which will probably also be three if this one slides)
The plan here had been for two weeks, with her alone in contrast to other years when she comes with my FIL and so has companionship. I believe that three weeks alone in my house with little to do and nobody to talk to much will have a stressing impact, and her tendencies will be to get cranky and hard to deal with. I am a little on edge myself at this point in my life because of other stressors in my life. So this is a matter of prudence and knowing my boundaries.
My husband will see less of his mother than you may think. He works until 8:30 p.m. as a matter of course, though Argentinians do stay up late.
I doubt at this point that I will consider going to be with my parents during her visit as the solution. I consdiered that while still angry. It would be better to contact her myself with my position if my husband will not do it (which he can and should).
I am very appreciative of all input, including those who are disagreeing with me. I had not expected such a long and contentious thread!