I am at a complete loss. I am really conflicted on whether to go with DH to his mother's wedding. She has rushed into a new marriage after her husband of 25+ years cheated for the second time and left. As far as we know they did not annul the marriage so in my eyes it's one big adulterous mess. We have only met the new guy twice for maybe a total of 6 hours and it was very uncomfortable. I do not get along with his family (though it is now civil, just really forced) and would be forcing myself to go. DH is so uncomfortable and sick over the whole thing but he's too nice to not go as he never sticks up for himself with them.
On top of all of that, even if I can force myself to just go, it is going to be so much work. Our daughter has never been on the car for more than 45 consecutive minutes and hates it. I feel bad putting her through it. It will suck and goes against every motherly gut feeling I have. She will melt down and she has major stranger anxiety. She is still very limited with what solids she'll eat so I'll have to pack everything cause she won't just eat what is there. I am severely lactose intolerant and no lactaid pills work so I can't really eat out and I've learned people just don't get what no dairy means. So I will have to pack all of my meals as well. And it will be memorial day weekend so the roads won't be as safe, the hotel expensive and someone has to watch our cats. :(
I'm tired and don't want to do all that work and be emotional crutch too.
So I need to figure out how serious the whole invalid aspect is. I can't tell if my other reasons for not wanting to go are inflating the invalidity or if that really is serious and truly worth being the reason I don't go.
Would you attend an invalid wedding of a family member?