[quote="flyingfish, post:13, topic:193324"]
If the mother's sister is rich, she may be willing to give the money rather than lend it. It's worth asking before arguing with your siblings.
Also, your mom has 8k in life insurance and it's not enough for a funeral? Wow. I didn't realize it was so expensive to bury someone.
It is expensive, and I don't doubt that $8K will not cover it.
I may be in the minority here, but the mother's wishes are not the key point, unless she has set aside money to pay for what she wants. And she hasn't. To the deceased, funeral arrangements matter not one whit.
Do not go into debt for funeral costs. Explain to the funeral director and anyone involved that the upper budget limit is $8K. The same goes for family members. If anyone wishes to kick in additional funds, then the budget limit rises. But you'll have to all agree on the details as best you can.
You don't want to add to your grief the added burden of debt.