I’ve never had a girlfriend before. But 1 criteria for me, is if I do have a girlfriend then she has to be a Catholic. My main reason - I wouldn’t want to marry someone who isn’t Catholic, because then we’d have all sorts of disagreements because my religion is so important to me, and also, she wouldn’t be a good example to any children we had who I’d be trying to bring up Catholic. Even if she co-operated with me, they would probably wonder why she didn’t go to church, and etc. And I’m not gonna take the chance that it could all work out ok, or that she would convert - neither of those is likely to happen. And since I don’t want to marry a non-Catholic, well there’s no point beginning a relationship in the first place if I know that we are just going to break up somewhere down the track which would be upsetting for both of us.
My friends don’t agree with my reasoning, in 2 areas. Firstly, they say that a lot of other Christians are so similar to us anyway that I could get along well with any of them because we share the same values. That actually doesn’t fit with my past experience of hanging out with other Christians though. The other thing they say is that you can have a relationship even if you don’t think it will end in marriage, as plenty of people will have a relationship for fun or for the experience or whatever and then end it on good terms.
What do you think? Do you have the same criteria for who you would and wouldn’t try to begin a relationship with (if you’re not already married, that is)?