Ridgerunner, thanks for bringing this up. It got me thinking about my little boy.
The culture I want to create for him is one that is a witness to the family of GOD, not just his own parents, and ancestors. I understand that how we do everything we do – from prayers to laundry to daycare to shopping – creates a culture for him.
Living in community teaches him that every person God ever created is his brother, his sister, his family, that we are responsible for each other’s well-being. Living separately and financially independent of each other only teaches my child that essentially we are all on our own, and maybe even that we are no different from non-believers.
Look, this is just my own humble opinion, and I acknowledge that I am constantly growing and stumbling as a parent. But I’m beginning to see that some kind of communal living is essential for how I want to raise my son. It may just be having his grandparents live with us (they have no intention of moving right now) or renting a house with another family, or if God grants us the money to purchase our own home, renting out a room or rooms to local students, single moms, etc.
Incidentally, I lived in a Catholic commune for two years - it was the Abbey of St. Walburga! (now in Virginia Dale, Colorado) That was definitely a place for singles only!