I am a rabble-rouser, according to my husband, so when we first became aware of the abuses and trends against Catholic practice and teaching our first instinct was to stay where we are and work for change. Whether are motives are the best, I can’t say, because we get a lot of enjoyment out of being contrarian.
He enjoys having fun with it, dropping bombs in the conversation. as an RCIA sponsor you can do a lot of good because you work one on one with a newbie and can train them right. He hated “Breaking Open the Word” which he called “The Gospel according to Harry (or Don or Annie, whoever was speaking at the time)” but got to enjoy contradicting the obvious misstatements. He is known as “that Jesus guy” because he always insists on “What did Jesus say?” when the outrageious claims came out: gay is okay because Jesus ate with sinners, divorce is okay because Jesus forgave the sinful woman etc etc.
I am the one that used to speak out at every parent meeting for sacraments to correct what the catechist and DRE were saying: no women cannot be priests because the Lord did not choose women as apostles and the Church has spoken once for all time on this issue. Yes, Jesus worked miracles that cannot be explained by science and manipulation of human behavior.
We have had the satisfaction of seeing two former parishes change, without a change in priests. In one we both got on parish council or commissions and influenced hiring of new DRE and other key positions, and helped establish regular times for exposition and Eucharistic Adoration. We also helped influenced the choice of a parish renewal program from a radical one to an orthodox one. That parish now has daily (not perpetual) adoration and is a model of orthodoxy in a sea of dissent surrounding it. In another DH was instrumental in getting them to drop bingo and institute a stewardship and evangelization program. Parish size has doubled since we moved away.
I have a brother who went the “I hate my Catholic family and I hate my priest so I will find God by walking in the woods instead” route. He did not find God in nature, has become a total atheist and his kids have gone to pot competing to see who can live the most immoral lifestyle. He is bitter and unhappy but still won’t step foot in a Catholic Church, even for his own parents’ funera. He is still looking in nature, still coming up empty.