[quote=EricCKS]Hey folks I have a situation I am belaboring. This will be long so please stay with me.
History is, 2 text book births C-section, a year and half later 1 premature birth now in heaven natural birth, 4 months after that miscarriage followed with 2 DNCs. Five months after that text book pregnancy, my wife is 5 months along planned C-section.
Question is, Doc says more children could jepardize the health of mom and potential children due # of C-sections, DNCs. and the stress on her cervix/uterus etc. Delivery will be at our Catholic hospital and Doc is ready to submitt the proper documentation required to perform a tubal based on health of mom and need not to keep having babies.
My wife is willing to proceed with the tubal due to health reasons Doc stated. I myself cannot say I am 100% done with kids but do not want to sacrifice moms health and the potential suffering of losing another child. That was terrible. We practiced the Creighton model of fertility management. My wife is very skeptical of this as a long term method of avoiding pregnancy due mostly to us.
How would you proceed??
Eric, wow, sounds alot like the pain we went through with our decision to seek a tubal after our fourth baby, feel free to private message me.
This is a hard and touchy subject and one that is between you, your wife and God.
Remember, God wants us to LIVE, he is not a God that would have a woman have baby after baby with the risk of her life, God put good doctors in our lives, if your doctor is this concerned, you have every right to take him very seriously.
What I am amazed with at this website is the fact that everyone thinks because a woman gets her tubes tied, she is rejecting life, no, I’m choosing life, mine and I’m choosing to live for my four kids.
Not only that, I’m choosing to foster children and hope to adopt as many as we can find room for, no joke!!! I am the most open person to life, just because I can’t give birth does not mean “it’s over” far from it, do you know how many children need homes??
There are children who will Never know what it means to have a mom and dad and sisters and brothers.
Again, this is a very hard decision, you will hear so many different answers. My prayers are with you and again, feel free to email me.