While I'm usually good a writing letters (much better than talking) I am having difficulty with one that is overdue. My sil and I have an extremely strained relationship (total elephant in the room when at the same party). Many hurts have happened, especially in recent times with her and a member of her family who have thrown insulting terms about me my way, not to mention the gossiping about me and my husband and our parenting skills behind our backs and lying many times about us. My husband and his brother don't talk hardly at all when they see each other and I think it has a lot to do with this stress between his wife and I. I really want to address this with her (let her know of why I don't trust her, why I have anxiety when I'm about to be anywhere where she is) in a letter but don't want to make it a letter filled with anything but love.
Has anyone done something like this, and if so, how did you frame the letter? It has been a strain and I do not want my husband nor bil to have a strained relationship b/c of their wives. And I'm sure everyone is wondering what my part in this breakdown is...my guess is my passion for the faith and politics (she and I disagree on this, though we are both Catholic).