I’m new here but I joined with a purpose. I have a problem and I do not know what Jesus would say as advice but I truly want to do the right thing.
I got married a year 19 months back and my husband and myself have a 7 month old baby.
My husband has a widowed mother who I agreed to have stay with us before marriage. We got along okay, two women coming from very different upbringings and mind sets. I always tried to keep her happy (she likes to be spoilt and I did that by re-decorating her room, giving her spa treatments, etc) we were happy. Once I got pregnant she helped me out with whatever she could but always mentioned that she wants me to have a boy, and a normal delivery. These things upset me and My husband told her it is not in my hands.
Things didn’t go her way but I have a beautiful baby girl and I had her through an emergency c-section which my MIL was not happy about and in fact delayed the process by not giving her consent immediately, saying that I will be forever fat and unable to have more children. This obviously soured things between her and myself. To add to it she also refused to hold my baby saying that she is scared and that she has forgotten how to hold a new born child
When baby turned two months old and I was sick one day she made an issue when I didn’t come out of my room and she didn’t get to see my baby. Since my baby, things have gotten sour for us. Mostly because she is used to having her own daughter and my husband bend to her will and because I pretty much do what I want.
To cut things short, she involved herself in an argument my husband and I were having and decided to tell me what she felt about me on that day. Things like, I made a mistake marrying her son, if her husband was alive it wouldn’t be me as his wife, i am a bad mom and so on. This hurt me tremendously because this was just after a weekend that I treated her along with my mum to a spa day and showered her with gifts. It hurt me more coz my husband didn’t stop her when she was saying these things to me.
Hubby comes from a family that has ingrained it in his head that he is solely responsible for his mother- not his sister but only him and if he doesn’t house his mother and take care of her he will be disowned from his family, because GOD has commanded that we take care of his parents and we will be cursed if we do not do so.
Due to the friction between MIL and I, we are planning on staying separately from my MIL. She is a working woman, healthy and completely able to take care of herself. But family is against us shifting out coz it means we are not taking care of her.
What would Jesus say? What do I do?
Please don’t ask me to pray. Since all these issues I’m very quickly becoming detached from God. Also, my Husband and I have a relationship that is just based on co-existence now. Please help?