My husband and I recently attended WWME. This program was wonderful for some of the couples there BUT it did not suit the needs of my husband and me. I wish that I would have had a better understanding of what the weekend entailed before going. My intent is not to criticize the program, some of the couples there were really fulfilled with the process. It just was NOT for us so I thought I would post what this program primarily consists of so couples considering WWME are better informed… I wanted to post on their actual website but there was no link to do this so I decided to post on CAF.
The gut of this program is the process of “dialoguing.” Couples listen to written dialogue of a married couple (3 couples presented and ran the weekend) and a written presentation from a priest regarding an issue (e.g. intimacy.) The attending couples then separate for a determined period of time to write letters to each other about this issue with the focus being on their “feelings.” Each couple then reunites in the privacy of their room where they are to read each other’s letters twice (once for the head, the 2nd time for the heart.) Then as a couple they choose whose feelings were stronger in the letters and discuss this. This process (dialoguing) was **repeated **throughout the entire weekend. Time limits were strict. Phone calls were given to each hotel room when couples were to return to the conference room and if you did not return, you were called a 2nd time. (Couple’s photos were on a table. as you entered the conference room you turned your picture over so they knew you were there.)
The entire weekend centered on this dialoguing process. We had hoped for a variety of different exercises between spouses. That would have been nice in case dialoguing wasn’t effective for you. We had also hoped for more scripture and church teaching on the sacrament of marriage (although there was some and prayer was included in the weekend.) It was nice to write each other a letter and talk about it, once or maybe twice. However, over and over again was not something either of us found effective or enjoyable.
There was VERY limited alone time for couples throughout the weekend. This was very disappointing for us. The days started at 7:30am and finished up between 9:30-10:00pm, all sessions revolved around writing and dialoguing. There were no other options. We did not have time to take a walk together or see anything outside of the hotel. That was frustrating for us.
Meals… You had assigned seating and sat with different couples every meal. There were questions at the table that the couples discussed during the meal. This actually was ok. It was a nice way to meet the other couples there. However, it would have been really nice to have one meal alone, just with your spouse, preferably Saturday’s evening meal.
That’s the just of it, hope this helps couples to decide if WWME is something that would benefit their marriage.