Thank you , hlmem for that extremely depressing assessment of women under 25.
There are in fact, some women under 25 who want to be good catholics. Not all of them are actively looking for husbands, though. Many are just living their lives, working, going to school, etc. Some are wondering where all the good catholic men are!
While it’s true that most women aren’t marriage material when they are only 18 or 21, not all of them are just interested in recreational sex with random partners. Honestly, a woman desperate for marriage is almost as bad as a woman determined to avoid it.
To the OP:
That brings me to my next point: the best way to find the person you are looking for is to stop looking. Just do your thing, meet people, and if the love of your life is in there somewhere, you’ll find her. In the meantime, you’ll make some cool friends and you won’t be so lonely. Loneliness is never helpful, it makes people desperate, and desperation is never attractive to a woman in her right mind. (or to a man, for that matter)
Another important note: You are only 22. It’s not like you’re going to be an old maid or anything. You have time.
As to your specific questions:
How can I tell if they like me?
This tends to vary from one woman to another. One thing hlmem was right about is that it’s often hard to tell, but many wait for the man to read their mind and make the first move. Chances are, though, that if she likes you and knows you well enough to feel comfortable, she’ll say yes if you ask her out.
What’s the best way to meet them?
First, pray. Give your love life over to God, and then make yourself stop worrying about it. If you start to worry, find somethign else to preoccupy yourself, (see my answer to number 5)
After that, just do your normal stuff. Go to mass. Maybe get involved in a ministry that is interesting to you. (DH was a eucharistic minister when we met, I was in the choir at our parish) We both met when we weren’t expecting it, and we weren’t looking for it.
Has God predestined me to end up with one person, or am I free to choose, or is it somewhere in between?
As with most things, there is God’s will and there is free will. Unfortunately, our choices are not always the ones He wants us to make.
Why’s it so hard to find good Catholic girls?
It’s like waiting for a pot to boil. If you obsess over it, it’s way harder to be patient, and it seems a lot harder to get to your goal. You’re about to graduate from college. Concentrate on celebrating that blessing, and finding your first job.
Yes. Find a cool hobby. Take up jogging. Carpentry. Blogging. Hike. Travel. Get a telescope and be amateur astronomer. Go birdwatching Read.
Single life is rewarding too, it offers one a certain level of freedom and discretion as far as how one spends his or her time. Enjoy it while you have it, and concentrate on being a whole man. (This is good for women, too actually. Regardless of one’s gender, it’s no good to waste time moping about singleness)
That way, if God does call you to marriage, You’ll have a more complete self to give to your wife. It’s good to have purpose in your life before you marry. That is something spouses can share!
Or, if you find yourself called to single life, then you won’t have to worry about having nothing to do!
Also, you say you are having trouble with your Catholic faith. Get yourself to a solid place before you think about seriously dating anyone. That could affect whom you choose, and who will choose you. There are some good catholic girls who won’t date men they can’t share their faith with completely.
Is there a patron saint for lonely singles?
No clue. My husband prayed to st. therese of Liseux before he met me. She’s my confirmation saint. Coincidence? Probably not.