[quote="piobaire, post:1, topic:265784"]
So you are fairly certain you have a vocation to consecrated life........then what? How on earth does a person find the community God is calling them to!!
I have struggled with this for a few years. I have no real attraction to a specific apostolate apart from prayer and liturgy if that can be considered an apostolate. I have visited 10+ active orders and one cloistered order. All of them were nice but none 'felt like home' and somehow cloistered life scares me and I feel drawn to some form out outward activity.
I tried the whole pro/con list and every other kind of list but it just seems to 'me' centered. If God is calling me to the consecrated life then surely He knows where and will show me where rather then me hunting down every order in North America and yet this is what I have been doing! Perhaps I need to stop and wait for God to show me but that seems too passive. So confused!
If you're attracted to prayer and liturgy, then that could be a sign of cloistered life. I have been discerning and I now believe I am called to cloistered religious life. This took me many years to come to - when I first felt the call, I was terrified and ran away from it. When it came back, I tried to bargain and thought okay I'll be apostolic because cloistered life seemed so strange and scary. But in the end I had to put my life in God's hands and say "God, I want to do your will. I surrender my will entirely to you." And there it was, my calling to cloistered religious life. Now I can't think of anything more wonderful. So even if you are scared by it, keep praying and be open to it because God will only call you to what will bring you joy.
Try reading the works of various saints who founded religious orders. Part of my calling is not only to cloistered life but particularly to Benedictine life. I read the Rule of Saint Benedict and I knew that was it, that was what I was called to. It takes a lot of prayer - and I meant a lot of prayer. You can't pray too much when it comes to discernment.
A community may not necessarily feel like that perfect home straight away. It may take time to feel at home in a community. Perhaps consider revisiting a community you may have really liked but not felt that 'at home' feeling yet.