A very close friend of our family has a terminal illness, and she contacted us today to let us know she is going downhill very fast. She has had several aggressive cancers and she may not last the week. She lives in my parents’ home town a few hours away. My siblings and I are taking off Thursday and Friday from our respective jobs to go home.
Although I am in my 30’s I’ve never had anyone I’ve been particularly close to die before, and this lady is a very good friend to my Mom and my sister, particularly. I am not sure how to communicate with her when I see her - no false but well-intentioned statements like, “Oh you’ll be fine,” for example, when we all know she won’t. Of course I am and have been praying for her, but I don’t really have any experience with this kind of situation, where the dying person is quite conscious and is someone whom I know well. I realize there’s not much I can do when I’m home, but I know my Mom and sister are going to be a mess and I want to try to give them support also.
If anyone could share a few thoughts I’d appreciate it. Thanks.